Domestic Violence

What is Family Violence?

Domestic (or Family) Violence is a pattern of behavior where one person in a relationship tries to gain power and control over his or her partner through fear and intimidation.  This can take the form of threatening or actually using physical violence, or the abuse can be emotional, verbal, economic or sexual.

QUICK FACTS

  • Native women are more victimized than any  U.S. segment
  • 34% of Indian women will be raped in their lifetime
  • 64% of Indian women will be assaulted in their lifetime
  • Indian women are stalked over twice as much as other women
BREAK THE SILENCE - CALL FOR HELP

Break the silence of family violence.  If you are a victim of family violence - or if you're living in fear of violence - contact Choctaw Nation Children and Family Services.  Call 800-522-6170.

USEFUL CONTACTS

Oklahoma Safeline- 800-522-7233 (SAFE)
National Domestic Violence Hotline- 800-799-7233 (SAFE)
Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network Hotline- 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
Communication Services for the Deaf- 800-252-1017(TTY)/866-845-7445(Voice)
Okla Coalition Against Domestic Violence &Sexual Assault (M-F 9-5)405-524-0770

The Problem

Family violence happens to men and women in all racial, economic and religious groups, although women are the victims in 95 percent of reported cases.  Children in homes where spouse abuse occurs are also at risk, both for being abused themselves and for having problems such as anxiety, depression, poor health, low self-esteem, drug abuse and suicide.

Family violence often goes unreported, but an estimated 3 to 4 million American women are beaten each year by their partners.  Native American women are even more at risk.  

According to the FBI, 30% of women and 6% of men killed in this country are killed by their partners or ex-partners.  Some experts say that a woman’s chances of being physically assaulted by a partner or ex-partner sometime in her life are between 20 and 33%.

BREAK THE SILENCE.  CALL FOR HELP.

Break the silence of family violence.  If you are a victim of family violence – or you’re living in fear of violence – contact Choctaw Nation Children and Family Services.  Call 800-522-6170.

The Warning Signs

It's impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of emotional abuse and domestic or family violence. If you witness any warning signs of abuse in your relationship - or that of a friend, family member or co-worker -  take them very seriously.

Many of the signs women are taught to interpret as caring, attentive, and romantic are actually early warning signs for future abuse.  Some examples include:

  • INTRUSION:  Constantly asks you where you are going, who you are with, etc.
  • ISOLATION:  Insists that you spend all or most of your time together, cutting you off from friends and family.
  • POSSESSION AND JEALOUSY:  Accuses you of flirting/having sexual relationships with others; monitors your clothing/make-up.
  • NEED FOR CONTROL:   Displays extreme anger when things do not go his way; attempts to make all of your decisions.
  • UNKNOWN PASTS - NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN:  Secretive about past relationships; refers to women with negative remarks.

OTHER SIGNS

People who are being abused may:

  • Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner.
  • Go along with everything their partner says and does.
  • Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what they’re doing.
  • Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner. 
  • Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness.
  • People who are being physically abused may:
  • Have frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents.”
  • Frequently miss work, school, or social occasions, without explanation.
  • Dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars (e.g. wearing long sleeves in the summer or sunglasses indoors)


BREAK THE SILENCE.  CALL FOR HELP.

Break the silence of family violence.  If you are a victim of family violence – or you’re living in fear of violence – contact Choctaw Nation Children and Family Services.  Call 800-522-6170.

Family Violence FAQ's

A list of family violence Frequently Asked Questions from the Rural Assistance Center provides answers and insight for many Choctaw families in southeastern Oklahoma who may be in danger.

Click here for Frequently Asked Questions

  • How big a problem is domestic violence?
  • What are the myths and facts about domestic violence?
  • What do we know about rural domestic violence?
  • How does domestic violence affect children?
  • Is it more difficult for rural women to seek and get help?
  • Is it more difficult for rural women to get to needed services?
  • Are treatment services available to domestic violence offenders in rural areas?
  • How does rural poverty relate to domestic violence?
  • Is access to firearms a risk factor for domestic violence?
  • What role does health care access play for domestic violence victims and survivors?
  • What types of training and resources are available for rural health care providers to help them prevent domestic violence?
  • Is access to legal services a problem in rural areas?

Contact the Family Violence Program

Please call or visit your local office for Family Violence assistance.  

Offices located in:

Atoka Field Office
P.O. Box 87
Atoka, OK  74525
Phone:  580-889-1955
Fax:  580-889-6905

Durant Headquarters
P.O. Box 1210
Durant, OK  74702
Phone:  800-522-6170 ext 2663
Fax:  580-920-3197

Hugo Field Office
P.O. Box 757
Hugo, OK  74743
Phone:  580-326-3362
Fax:  580-326-9530

Idabel Field Office
P.O. Box 1831
Idabel, OK  74745
Phone:  580-286-3462
Fax:  580-208-2755

Talihina Field Office (BIA Building)
P.O. Box 463
Talihina, OK  74571
Phone:  918-567-4625
Fax:  918-567-2081

Family Violence Program
sfolsom@choctawnation.com 

Our children.
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Children and Family Services is committed to the preservation of Choctaw Families and our heritage.

800-522-6170
580-924-8280