posted on October 12 and updated on October 12
i am adopted but have been in close contact with my biological father for several years now. he is an enrolled member of the choctaw nation, and i have the information necessary to obtain my CDIB and move forward, with the exception of being stumped by the process by which he “claims” me as his biological child.
according to this website, if he wasn’t named on my original birth certificate and adoption decree, i have to produce a “Petition to Adopt”.
from this website:
If you are adopted, you must trace your Choctaw blood through your natural (biological) parent(s). We will need a STATE CERTIFIED FULL COPY BIRTH CERTIFICATE (after adoption) AND A COPY OF THE ADOPTION DECREE. If the ADOPTION DECREE does not show the natural parent(s), you will ALSO need to submit one of the following: (1) Your birth certificate before adoption, showing natural (parent(s) names or (2) PETITION TO ADOPT, that specifically names your natural (biological) parents(s). We may require additional documents that prove natural parentage.
I have been unable to locate any information on how an adult adoptee goes about obtaining a “Petition to Adopt”, only for new adoptive parents.
the people i’ve contacted with the state of missouri have been less than helpful, and when i queried with the choctaw nation i was basically told that yes, that is the only acceptable way of “proving” my lineage.
my father is willing to do whatever needs to be done so that i can secure my own enrollment as well as his grandchildren. however, since being in contact with my biological parents my relationship with my adoptive parents (my mother) has deteriorated, despite my reassurances and being sensitive to their feelings / concerns.
i thought it might be possible to obtain an amended birth certificate with my birth parents listed, but from what i can tell that would require basically replacing my original one with my adoptive parents and i don’t want to further damage an already crippled relationship.
my dad contacted a lawyer through the choctaw nation who recommended that he adopt me. (seriously.)
it would seem to me that a DNA test; paternity test; or form filled out by the biological enrolled parents claiming parentage would be sufficient, but maybe i’ve just not stumbled upon it yet.
and here i thought once i’d found my biological parents after 20+ years of searching that obtaining our enrollment was a done deal.
any suggestions ?